11
October
2007
Spoiled
Nathan
When you spoil someone with kindness and good things, s/he becomes too numb to notice your kindness. S/he becomes accustomed to receiving, and fails to appreciate how hard it may be for you, who gives. The act of kindness and goodwill becomes something natural, normal, and mundane – nothing more. More often than not, if you fail to extend your goodwill even once, you’re still at fault, because you have failed to help. On the other hand, you become a forgotten soul when s/he does not need anything from you. Such is the life of a parent who gives everything to his/her child. Of course, this situation also exists amongst other kinds of relationships as well – in romantic relationships, in friendships, and in teacher-student relationships, etc.
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very true for a lot of people, but there *are* people who know how to appreciate everything and everyone that they have and who expect nothing from them.
true happiness with another person can only be achieved if one realizes that he/she can never *own* anyone else or demand anything from them. 
you can have someone without owning him/her. 
you can have a boyfriend/girlfriend without owning him/her. 
you can have a best friend without owning him/her. you can have a son/daughter without owning him/her. 
and you can never *lose* anyone coz you never own anyone. 
when both people realize that, neither of them expects more from the other than what he/she gives, and neither of them ever takes the other for granted, for they both know that what they have is a relationship built on mutual love and a shared desire to keep the relationship going. 
*not* a tie that obliges each of them to stay committed or do things for the other. 
although that can come naturally, easily, and freely. 
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things like that often a lot of times in the real world, but as mango said, there are people who know how to appreciate everything and everyone they have. the sad part about these kinds of situations is that often times, the one who is sacrificing so much ends up battered and bruised. whether it may be in the form of physical assault or emotional hurts, more often than not, the loser is the one who is sacrificing. and if worst goes to worse, the person you’ve worked so hard to please will forget about you. bad as it may sound, this is not an entirely bad thing. on the sacrificing person’s part, after some time, it will be a liberating experience… i think…
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thanks for the inputs
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